I texted "No problem " and immediatly he wrote back "You going?" and of course I responded yea. Ohh I hate how he has so much power over me and my stomach is in knots. YIKES!!
I think these WASs need things spelled out to them. Perhaps he just thought you were being nice, but not inviting him along specifically.
How do you feel about going there yourself, and texting him while on the way just to let him know and ask if he cares to join? Jody had said that in the friendship stage you invite them to do things you were going to do anyway, very casual...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
If you don't hear back though, you could just text him when you DO go, leaving the door open...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Oh I am going anyway because by BF will be in the fashion show so this is something with or without I will be attending. That's a good idea about asking on the way.
good things so far! Sounds like he is considering it... I do hope it works out and is a positive experience. All I can say is any time spend together can be a gift!
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
He didn't go. Oh well, I had a great time anyway!!
The weird thing is that he was texting me all night Friday, then he wanted to come over at about 2am but I told him no (this is the first time I EVER told him no) because I had to wake up really early in the morning. The next morning I felt bad and I know he hates rejection so I texted him 'Just an FYI it was VERY hard telling you no last night but if I didn't I would never have woken up this morning. Have a good day TTYL ' I didn't expect to hear from him but later I got a "Are you working today?" text. I said yes that I was actually on my way in. And I have heard nothing since.
I even texted him yesterday as I was getting ready something like, Just a reminder today is the festival, I'm leaving soon, but nothing. The weird thing is that while I was at the festival his mom called and left a message saying that she wanted to see how I was doing. I was a bit buzzed at this point so I am just going to call her back today.
Sorry he didn't go, but it sounds like you've been having some great contact with him anyway. Too bad you didn't get to see him on Friday night, but good that his intention was to see you.
I am curious about why he wanted to know if you are working too. Perhaps he will stop by your work? Or maybe he just wanted to know if you were home...
Please keep us posted on the conversation with your H's mom too. I find that pretty interesting. Is she someone you usually talk to?
I think big things are in store for several of us on this board. You, me, Opt and Daisy all started this process within a couple of months of each other, and it seems like things are starting to shift in all of our situations.
Thinking good thoughts for you...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
" and immediatly he wrote back "You going?" and of course I responded yea. Ohh I hate how he has so much power over me and my stomach is in knots. YIKES!!
Yes, and even if he doesn't go, the fact that he didn't automatically say no and considered it, will be good enough for me right now!!