I told him it hasn't been good for me and the kids but sad and stressful. I guess he really means the D is good for him, and in a weird way, I hope so b/c to do what he did to the family I hope he is happy enough at least to justify that.
I know exactly what you mean here. Not that I wish him happiness through adultery by any means, but there's some small sense that if he ends up miserable after causing so much agony it's all such a waste. It's not logical, but I do know what you mean!
M60 H52 D20 M14 yrs OW-old gf from 1986 bomb-5/18/08 H filed for D-9/10/08 D final 4/24/09 xH remarried (not OW) 2012