My Ex was in an accident-now what?????

[mkultra]

Sally M,

I remember now a book you used that dealt with conflicts such as these. I fell off the negotiations tactics and DBing BIG TIME.

Mistake #1: I brought up his MLC. That is like waking up a sleepwalker. He clung tightly to his alien denial and lifestyle.

Mistake #2: Brought up his OW who actually is now having another man's baby.. He only reaffirmed that he WAS a Bad Husband and so unhappily married to justify his OW and cheating and lying. So basically he just agreed he is horrible at marriage.

Mistake BIG ONE #3: I got emotional. Did not wait 24 hours. Cried. Pleaded for him to treat me with respect. Mentioned how I worked such long hours at two jobs because of single parenthood and relied on friends, family, neighbors, etc, not him. I believe this just gives him fodder for divorce lawyers neither one of us can even afford.

I wish I could have held my tongue and I did while I was in the same room as the kids. My D7 kept shaking my arm because I fell so silent. She was savvy. "What is he saying? What is wrong, Mommy? Daddy, stop talking to , Mommy!" She freaked out a little bit even though I tried to stay calm in front of her. That is what pisses me off the most. He would put me down and scream at me in front of the kids. He has not the whole time he has been staying at my house and during his rehabilitation. Sigh. Back to the DBing Board. I am glad to be back in a weird way.