i just kind of acted as if when w came back. as i get more comfortable, i am learning to tell her. "i like it when you did this, or that", instead of being critical. just try to enjoy togetherness for awhile. as i was advised r talk can wait.
Makes sense. Just got my prescription refilled of "patienceia." I'm on the max dosage a day. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thinking of you Coach. Hope you and W enjoyed the concert! Glad things are moving in a great direction. Hope you win the playoffs and go to the big game!
Coach, hope you guys (Phoebe included) are having a great weekend.
We handle all raw discussions in MC where Doc stops things from escalating. He helps decompress topics & helps us see them as patterns of behavior, not personal attacks, even OM.
Hugs
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
Things were pretty smooth over the weekend. A lot of things in the past that would have bothered me I now let go easliy. I am not getting the "honeymoon" effect, she is still a little mad at me. She now recognises when she snaps at me or discounts what I say. I am just doing what needs to be done around the house, talking a lot, and keeping her informed of my day. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Hi Coach - It's so great to read your posts here. I don't know if my situation will ever turn and bring me to piecing...but I do see how taking care of yourself - and being honest with yourself - can bring about the kind of awareness that you need in order to be present enough to receive as well as give love.
You're a great man, Coach. I'm so very happy for you - and admire the calm resolve that brought you where you are today. -Carlos.
I am a little frustrated so I am venting and looking for advice. Since my W moved back we are pretty much roommates IMO. I have done what she asked - help more around the house, talk about my day, keep her informed, be honest and transparent in my communication. I am working on her LLs - WOA and AOS. My W is still not very affectionate, doesn't spend time with me, invalidates me and gets defensive over things. I know I need patience and I am not getting angry or frustrated. Just need some perspective and what to expect. Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Coach, remember when I told you guys that if my Hus had done a fraction of what you were all doing, no one could pry me from his side? It's true. For me. Too late now. You have been on a journey. She has been on a journey. What makes you think you'll arrive at the same time, or even the same destination? We all pray that is exactly what happens, but in case it does not, you will have to be patient. You are a good man, Coach. I pray in time your M is restored. Peace. Goldey
Me:44, WAW hx bi-polar H:48, hx of abuse S:22, S:19, D:16 Filed Oct 08, dismissed Filed again Jan 10, dismissed Now Piecing alter persona: SuperBoots
