Thanks you guys! Yeah, BH, I felt really good about emailing him pointing out he was rude and I would expect him to treat me as I treat him. He actually did get more respectful after that, and I know that's something I wouldn't have done a year ago, or prob. even 6 months ago. I need to continue to point out his bad behavior I think like that and ask him to stop, if nothing else I felt really good about myself, and his behavior did improve too, well for that day anyway!
NC, you're right--I got better in spite of the divorce. I was already depressed and finding out about the D and the OW, and the same week finding out about my brother's brain tumor just really devastated me and made me even more depressed. The fact that he views that as being somehow beneficial to me is crazy. I think they just have to justify to themselves; well my A and D is actually good for everyone. I told him it hasn't been good for me and the kids but sad and stressful. I guess he really means the D is good for him, and in a weird way, I hope so b/c to do what he did to the family I hope he is happy enough at least to justify that.
Puppy, thanks for giving me the pass this time. I was really expecting the 2x4s, and if I do that again, I will very much deserve them!!! Karen
Karen