Aww Daisy thanks...great advise!! I am trying very hard to be fully aware of my thoughts.
Ok so I texted H this morning about the fair, very simple 'Good Morning. There is a art-film-music fair this Sunday, thought you might be interested....'
About an hour later I got 'Where'. That wasa bout 5 min ago and I just told him where it was....
P.S. My OAI wasn't about expectations, it was more about bad thoughts that would creep in and cause me to accuse H of crazy things.