Back to life, back to reality?

[istherehope]

Grr,

A "mini-fight" on IM, over something really stupid. H reached out to say he didn't feel good, and I just asked what was wrong etc., and then we got to tomorrow's plans. He said he could come pick me up, and then I said if he was sick he didn't need to and I could just get to the house. Then he explained how he really wanted to drive and such, then I said OK, well just let me know in the morning if you don't feel up to it. Then he said the following:

H: ok, lots of going back and forth and i am feeling manipulated
M: sorry was trying to be nice only
H: so either i come and get you or you tell me not to, i am not goign to go back and forth on it and do some convincing s**t
M:ok come get me
H: i am trying to make a decision and be nice and you do not make it easy; you want to make all of the decisions and that bothers me
M: I'm sorry I was just worried about your health. I am more than happy for you to come and get me.

By the way the reason that I kept emphasizing his health is that in the past he has felt like I don't care about his health, that I try to make him do things when he is sick etc. I thought this was a 180 for me, but it turns out that the decision-making thing is much bigger to him.

So we had a couple of normal sentences back and forth after this, just about where we are going tomorrow etc., but I am surprised that this made him so upset. I think I am going to need to be VERY careful over the next few days in terms of my responses to him.

ITH