Hey Hope, I think T2L's post locked up. I wish I could walk on that beach with you. Sounds perfect, but also sounds like you could use some company. I know it is so hard to watch our H doing this to themselves (drinking). My H has been a drinker since Ive known him at 17y/o. I never really have been, and Ive expressed my concern over it to him on numerous occasions but finally gave up. Do you drink? My H OW drinks. I only thought she was a social drinker but D11 says they drink together when at his place. Now he drinks more than ever - he said it himself "Ive been drinking myself to oblivion" It just says they don't want it to be this way, so the drinking is a wonderful escape. They need help. I worry theyll hit rock bottom before they realize it. I am going to try to start going back to the al anon meetings. If I still dont feel comfortable in that group I can always find another one. And this weekend in Memphis "with the guys" (god I hope not OW) is yet another oportunity for escape. Im sure it will be a Mardi Gras in Memphis. Gee, too bad H and OW cant find something more creative to do together - sports bars? That will get old REAL fast.
OK Divorce Care group. I will talk with H/W team that plans to lead that group when I go to church this Sunday, and if I get more info, I will pass on.
Also, I am interested to hear of your H response to your encounter with OW. What do you think? Do you think it looks like we dont care if we dont confront them? I don't want to be the b#$@h wife - I would do it matter of fact and respectfully - like you did. I know the rules say not to confront but me being passive, almost apathetic and too distracted - it would be a 180 for me.
OK will check in later. Good night.
me - 36 H- 38 M 16yr T 21Yr S11 D11(twins) S14 IDLYA 6/18 H moved out6/19 H confessed EA and asked for D 7/4 H consulted atty 5-6wk ago still havent been "served" (WHY NOT? - maybe he just cant afford to file right now)
