Now, please forgive me as I don't know much of your sitch, but it sounds like you and H are S'ed but still living in the same house? If so, just curious why that is? Is it possible for one of you to get your own space? My guess is that H can't miss what he can see everyday.
Initially when I started talking with my coach in October 07 she recommended that I stay in the house. When things did not improve she recommended that I move out and I did in December 07. Things did improve. We were able to reduce the feelings of hostility and become friends. We have been in stage 1.5-2 ever since. On November 10th he leaves for the CHP and I had planned to move back in to the home we own together. As it turned out my roommate moved out of town in September and my coach recommended that I move back in so that I could show him my changes and give him something to miss when he is in the academy for six months.
Thank you Going Forward. You are right I can't break down that wall. I just keep banging my head against it.
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