One of our dogs was quite sick due to a pancreatic infection.
H took her to the vet and we got the diagnosis and they gave us some pain meds. Today, I picked up some antibiotics and some other meds. for her condition.
She seems to be doing better but is still sore. At least she is drinking fluids and eating just a little. The main thing is she is drinking as she became very dehydrated.
H is in the thick of his MLC, all about ME, ME, ME.........
I do not take the bait at all.
I heard he was coming over tomorrow night as one of the kids has a church activity to go to which begins at 6:30 and ends at 9:30. D said she did not tell him what time it ended and I am sure he will be thrilled to hear what time it ends. Not!
Oh well.........this is part of being a parent..having to give and give and do things.
He is really down in the tank and lost right now.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
I'm so glad your dog is doing better. You hate it when they are sick b/c they can't really tell you what is wrong or how they feel. I'm so glad you got her to the vet.
I think I would just let H be for now, all he wants to do is think about himself, let him. He will see one of these days it is not all about him.
With the dog being very ill, we were preparing ourselves for her death as it was that bad, H said he could not take her to the vet due to money, then calls back and said he would take her, Then I got the speech that all he does is give and give and nobody does anything for him. I wanted to say that I have given my entire married life but I do not sit here and think people owe me.
Isn't that awful.
When he called me back to say to make that appt. for the vet, I said no, that he said he does not have money and he said to make the appt.
My husband is very, very focused on himself right now. Moreso than I have seen him in about three years.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
MY h is very much angry but it is toward his father for a variety of reasons.
Honestly, I am numb to any feelings I may/may not have toward him which sounds terrible.
With the holidays coming up, I keep thinking that I should tell him not to feel obligated to come over on Thanksgiving and Christmas and if he wants to spend it with someone else, that is his choice.
Honestly, that is how I feel and I think it would be good if he was somewhere else instead of with family.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sorry MWG that you are feeling that way. Those are your thoughts about your frustration with your sitch and your h's behavior, not how you really are feeling deep inside your heart.
Where would that get you if you said that? How do you think your h would react?
I can't remember would your h be open to mc? I know he is not open to AD's.
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Actually, I really think if he was somewhere else, it would force him to think what he has lost and what he is doing.
Where would it get me--it would give him a choice to make and it would not phase me in the least. Really, I am tired of putting up with this and the fact that he refuses to look for a job and drink all day is really too much for all of us.
No, he is not open to counseling or AD's at all.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Well, then he will never love me then because he has always and I mean always hated himself.
I am not pushing him away. I think he feels obligated to be here. We find it disgusting and appalling that he comes over for Christmas Eve dinner, goes back and sleeps with ow, then comes back the next day for Christmas dinner and he comes over fairly late in the day, like about 4PM.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Sorry, I have so many things bottled up inside of me and I have learned to keep so much to myself.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
