Hey, all. I'm okay but working my arse off ( a project we began in February is now about to come to fruition. Go-live is this weekend and I happen to be the unlucky sap whose on-call rotation is coming up tomorrow. oooh, lucky me.)
I saw S3's teacher today, W called during the meeting to apologize and say she couldn't make it (due to a patient again.) We had originally rescheduled this meeting from yesterday to suit W's changing plans. He loss. The meeting went well and we're discussing ways to help S3 with his fluctuating behaviors. S3 had very good days last Friday, Monday, Wednesday, and a fair day today. Unfortunately Tuesday was a horrible day for S3 -- he was highly cantankerous, disruptive and uncooperative. This was all the more astonishing since Monday had been a particularly stellar day for him. But I think we now have a line of action to try out on S3 to encourage him to have more good days.
With S7 tracking back into school, it has been rough getting him back into doing his homework. It has meant a lot of long frustrating evenings for the both of us.
The house has gotten some offers. W keeps relaying information to me from our seller's agent. Unfrotunately, these are all low-ball offers. And very dubious.
Call me paranoid, but due to the particular amounts offered, and the terms asked for in concessions, I strongly suspect these are really being staged by the same person, a guy who gave us a verbal offer (not in writing) back in September -- which was waaay too low. I'll refer to him as BH. W had apparently allowed him, BH, to haggle her down to about 20K less than our minimum acceptable offer -- because she had led the bid with that lowest value, not the highest. So I believe this guy thinks he smells blood in the water and is insistent on getting a below cost steal. He don't know me very well.
This BH guy has made a few feints at offers since then, but never in writing. Well now that the market looks so bad, and loans are difficult to come by, he probably thinks we're desperate and won't look before we leap. In fact his offers then dropped another 14k -- I told W to tell our agent that I wasn't interested in talking to BH with that attitude.
Then a few days ago we were told we got a new offer -- or one exactly like the last one from BH, but in writing from a person with another name. Not just another ridiculous scavenger type offer, but practically the same terms.
Well, I'm no fool, but I can't vouch for W. I told her already I wasn't interested in such low-ball offers, especially when they also ask us to pick up all closing costs and the buyer's agent's fees to boot. We could try a counter-offer, but with them starting with such a lost start, it wasn't hopeful. W seemed to agree on what we could or would accept or not. She also thought it possible that BH was using a proxy to make these bids.
Well today it seems that this other party made another slight bump up in their offer. (no big deal). but it exactly matched the original offer that BH had made in September. So now my alarms are going off all in my head (mind you, I'm dealing with a boatload of issues at work while all this info was coming in) and I'm now thinking this has got to be BH, which tells me this is no deal and no sale. Now I thought W would remember our prior conversation only a couple of days ago, and that she would still be thinking along the same lines as myself still.
But no, she thinks this offer has reached a threshold in her small, selfish mind of what would be acceptable to her, to let her off the hook with respect to the marital home and get her just enough payoff to eliminate her own debt and free her from this last obligation she shares with me, regardless if it is a sucker move. She left me a voicemail trying to convince me to run the numbers to see what the payoff would be, and to see that this would at least allow us to settle our debts and part ways. But this translates to me that she wants to bail sooner rather than later, to avoid waiting to get a fair and equitable offer because all she wants to do is, again, to cut and run.
And it also has me still trying to square this with her other strong suggestion that I move back into the house until it does sell -- which I have yet to fathom why on earth she feels that is a good idea fro me or why she even cares -- what is her angle in all this? I don't get it.
Part of me wonders if W would be so crooked as to undersell the house to someone like BH while accepting a kickback on the side to screw me out of what the house is really worth. Lord, I hope not.
But it does look like W is all too ready to sell us short just to free herself from this M ... heh, well, I guess, in a sense, my WAW has already done that.
