WAW Won't Communicate At All

[MsMelancoly]

Hi seaglass71, I will give a brief update on my sitch later as well as finding the detaching poem for you.

As COG has said, work on you ... and learning to be patient. You REALLY need to be at a good state of mind, before you contact your W. In one of my DB coaching sessions the coach mentioned something I never thought of. It's not just GAL, and/or 180s on the outside it's 180s on the inside. Example: my personality is pretty melancoly (I never get really really happy or excited, & on the flip site I get depressed, but can pull myself out). Thus my inside 180 was to be more upbeat & cheerful. Strange but at my work review in Aug. my boss said that I was very pleasant, happy & helpful to people this past year. (And yes I was in so much pain inside). As I've said to many others - you need to push through those bad, hurt feelings...they are part of life. (My H never did - he just ran away from them). Everyone deals with situations differently. The real thing that kept me going these past few months ... was that I decided I was going to take a different path, do all I could and see this through to the end, accept the outcome instead of bailing out. I wanted to learn, and know I can deal with things differently. My road is not done and I'm sure I will be flooded with many different emotions. Each day, is a new day to become stronger.