You guys seem to use lawyers very quickly and they are so costly.
Yes, the divorce laws are written by attorneys. They make it very complicated, with lots of legal filings and maneuverings, so it is really unwise to try to do it on your own. As a result you have to get an attorney, and it is going to cost thousands, even if it is a simple case.
The divorce attorneys of course have no incentive to settle amicably or quickly. So they paint the opposing party as a criminal, and when people are at their wits' end, they are more than happy to lean on the "friendly" attorney.
It is disgusting.
These attorneys are taking money out of my kids' pockets.
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They say it takes a man only 2 years to return to the same financial position he was in pre divorce and a woman at least 10 years.
I've heard this too, but it won't happen in our case. Concurrent with the divorce we had a couple of real estate sales where we lost money. A lot of money. Now normally, if we were not in a hurry to get divorced, we wouldn't have had to sell the house and take the loss. We could just hold onto it, and wait for the real estate market to recover in a year, 2 years, whatever. But no. We need to be divorced right now.
The loss is more money than I could save in 2 years. So I am without a home of my own and without a large chunk of money, and my income has been cut in half. I am guessing it will take me 10 years to get back. If ever.
