Sorry friend, I know I'm new to your thread. You may have read a piece from my wife on another thread that you spend a good deal of time on.
Suffice to say, I have been in your shoes on this one.
We, as true men, can never allow ourselves to sacrifice our character for our desires. If you have made the decision I think you have, it was the right one.
That doesn't make it hurt less, and I'm sorry for you about that.
I think you and I both came here with a strong desire to save our marriages. Neither of us were successful in that. But we came here because we valued the sanctity of marriage.
God works in strange ways indeed. If you get a chance, try to find an old thread by Praying4amiracle, or something to that effect. He experienced the other side of what you and I experienced. He too made the right decision at the time, choosing to honor the marriage, even though he had reached a point of moving on before his wife decided she wanted to try again.
Last I spoke to him, things had not worked out. I believe the resurrection of his marriage lasted less than a year.
There is a season for everything. Perhaps now was not your season.
If you're like me, there is satisfaction in knowing that you've done the right thing, even though there is also deep sadness at your loss.
What I can tell you from my experience is...sometimes you still win in the end.
Have patience. Continue to grow. Always choose the road of integrity and honor.
If you need to talk, let me know.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
