Maybe the problem is if I allow myself to see my H for the lying, cheating, manipulative, bitter, resentful, messed-up person he has been for so long now, I will draw the conclusion that he is incapable of change or at the very least totally unwilling to change.
He doesn't matter. The only one that matters is you, and your children.
There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.
