FIB, what can I say? I am so very sorry about all that you are going through! It is so obvious that the judge does not know you, the man you are, as we do. I do not understand how she can accuse you of hiding money!
So, is your lawyer proposing that you let your wife have the house? If so, who pays the mortgage then?
I agree w/ what Ian wrote.
I wouldn't settle for anything you don't have to! While there is a certain amount of compromising in a divorce...some things are worth fighting for more than others!
Please, as always, know that you are in my prayers! Things will not be this way forever! God always sees us through the storms!