LD - You're getting it. GAL, moving on and letting go, have to have meaning. It is individualistic. It doesn't mean jumping into bed with someone but I happen to think that women are great. I love a woman's touch, their perspective on life,the qualities they bring to life, their company.....everything about them. So I'm not going to deny myself the company of a woman. I can hang out with all my guy friends and it isn't the same. That is why I enjoyed being married so much. My ExW was truly my best friend until she decided to not to be.

I can only hope she is having as much fun as I am. However, last time I saw her it didn't look that way to me. The woman I'm dating now enjoys my company as much as I enjoy hers and that is very nice. No pressure. No expectations.

You love your W with all your heart but you don't need her. Big difference. She needs to understand that and she will, if you do your part. I love my ExW. Always will. The moon and the sun set with her. But I don't need her. I don't hate her or dislike her. I hate what she did and the behavior that ruined a 30 year relationship. Big difference. Her choice. Her loss. Her responsibility.

Me- 47
W- 45
Married 22 years
Together 30 years
No Kids, 1 dog, 1 Cat
2005 - 2007 W in MLT
1/08 - Crisis hits
3/08 W drops Bomb and leaves in the middle of the night. Admits to PA
4/08 W files for divorce
8/08 Divorce final