Then why on earth did YOU file? I think your H is relieved you are doing it and pushing this thing through because it absolves him of more guilt. He doesn't have to feel responsible for it he can always point to you as the one filing. Personally that's something I wouldn't want on my conscience. (Actually, I think being the respondent helped me because I had the luxury of picking a better attorney and when my husband later accused me of being the one to want the D I just laughed and said, hey did you forget? Who filed?)
Saying one wants a D and doing it are two completely different things. Perhaps you want it more then you think...
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