Convinced my M is over; trying to move forward.

[Esky94]

Hey LE! Thanks for dropping by my thread. You and I are in different worlds, so I'm a bit leery of whether I can offer anything useful. I had typed one up a few days ago, but it didn't get submitted. Grrr...bad mouse button! Bad!

Listening to the pain of your kids when they leave is heart-rending for me. I can only imagine. I've got the kids 5 days every two weeks. Monday night. Friday night and alternate Saturday nights. I don't have to wait long and neither do they. Although the youngest one has started crying for mommy within a few hours of arriving. Ack!

There's two words I hate about co-parenting: custody and communication book. One good idea my W had is to rebadge those words to "Sleepover at daddy's" and "Team Book". When we told the the girls, we said we were separating and dad would live somewhere else and they could have sleepovers at daddy's. It's funny, as a parent I can say "Sleepover at Daddy's" with a high level of enthusiasm. It sounds way better than "Spending time with your dad". That worked fairly well at the beginning. I should start using that language again...although the older one, D6, is a bit beyond that now. heh heh.

The team book is great because it takes the emotional sting out of sharing vital co-parenting information. Communication book just reminds me of a negative relationship headed towards divorce. "Team book" is positive and leaves choices open.

I feel for your situation because your W is trying to fix a need in herself with someone else, not realizing that she needs to fix it herself and not with things/people.

I'll pray for her. I'll pray without any expectation of any particular result, but just hope that God/the Great Spirit will find a way to heal that need.

I'll pray for you, too.