I like the idea of you setting some boundaries. They don't have to be punishing boundaries, but I do think you need to look after yourself at the moment and make sure you have space to do things for yourself. Your H is SO deep in his MLC I think he needs your support, but that's so hard on you. Thinking about it, your H reminds me a bit of RollerCoasterRiders' H whose threads I read when I came here. She said that the MLCer needs gentle support (but boundaries) during the MLC, but that you can set strong boundaries when they come out of the tunnel.
