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Hi Allw, Looks like you put a good GAL plan together. Like myself, you need to stop looking at H for the reassurances that we look for. Confidence is a good thing. Now just about your business and step back and let H observe your actions for awhile.

TxMom....You know I feel your pain as being relative newbies to this shock. I know it hurts about H going to church with OW. We both need to stop asking questions. Of course it will be easier for me since I have detached for a bit and see what happens after all of this exposure. Reactive action is not always good but I was at the breaking point that H and OW could just flaunt this and thinking I had to take it. Hopefully they will have a few sleepless nights like I had. It is also tough with the holidays upon us. I am just sitting back now and see what happens. One side of me does not want H to spend with OW, but I have no control. If that is what H is still fogged up about he might realize how much his real family means. Detach, I would not leave those letters out because H will know that you left them purposely. My 180 is that I am the one that will call after confrontation and I chose to do nothing.

T2L, thank the Mighty Lord for your thread. You have come so far, (look back to your original posts) and I could see us evolving in that direction also. I have been going to rejoice minitries and I look at Charlene standing for all that time. I give her credit. Even after all this pain and hurt I do want to reconcile my M and hope that OW does not push for D now. The only time I really surprised her was when I said I was praying for her. It took her off guard. I never cusse or threatened or cried, I still feel I maintained my dignity in a non DB way of course. Taking my D to soccer practice tonight (something H does), she also has a game on Sunday. One step at a time. My only true regret is that I did not make it to the BR closet to open that door just to see OW expression. Oh well.