Doing what got me this far.

[steady]

Hi Whiskey,

I saw you changed your name. Hope all has been going well for you.

That was my take on it also. I hate being avoided but I guess it is to be expected. I don't say anything I just act "as if" this is normal and proceed on.

Why doesn't she accept me at my word, hard to say. Have not given her any reason to doubt what I said. I don't pressure, I don't ask, I don't act and I don't touch her in anyway that I think is sexual so whatever her reasoning its not due to anything I am doing or have done in the last eight months or so.

It may be because of what happened in the past - before that past 8 months. Or it may be because she doesn't trust herself. At least you know it's not anything you are doing in the last 8 months - this leaves it to only something inside of her. All you can control is you, and you're doing that.

Maybe she's not 'avoiding' you, but rather avoiding only a situation she may be afraid of. The fact that she snuggles with you and puts her head on you in the bed shows she is at least open to a certain level of intimacy. This is very good. I wish I had that with my W right now. But in time I think I will.

It's a big wheel that's slow to turn. But it is turning.

Time, time and more time it all boils down to that. I continue on, taking care of me and watching for any positive signs from her. Trying not to expect anything from her and enjoying the moments we do connect.

Thanks for your imput, its always nice to hear from you.

Tim

Oh Time. That four letter word. But yes, time - for you and I both. It really is our friend. Just remember back, maybe re-read some of your old posts, you will see the changes over time that can't be seen in the short sense of time.