Signs to say WAW woke up?

[christarn]

dday~ I am sorry you are here.

I am a WAW....so this is just coming from my perspective. I think your w is scared and probably doesn't know WTF to do. She knows in her heart the best decision is to come home and take care of her family...but she made this decision to be strong and on her own...and reality is now set in. Life isn't as peachy on the "other side". Having to pay bills on a single income, the OM probably is starting to lose his charm etc.

There wasn't OM in my sitch, I started thinking about dating after I WA...but the more I thought about OMen in general...the more it reminded me of how much I missed my H

I know you are hurting, scared, and upset. But she is going thru the same emotions. It is a difficult balance to maintain. Try to stay strong. The more angry you become, especially with her, the more difficult it will make her decision making. It could possibly influence her decision about coming back as well. I know that is hard....believe me i know. My H, after 21 months of separtation, still holds so much anger with me. I can not change what I did...believe me I would in a heart beat. However, I know now what I have to do to be a better W, and I have learned so many lessons it is amazing. I would never put my H through this again, and I am not saying I am happy that I WA...I am just trying to make the best of the cards I have been dealt...and hoping you can see that as well. My H re-filed after 20 months, then out of the blue we talked and decided one last shot...so now we are trying MC...will it work...don't know...but it's worth the shot!!

As I tell my friend, Very Scared, Keep your eye on the fairway and away from the bunkers. We are all a little off par...keep your game face on...our goal around here is to be the next Tiger Woods. Or in my case Tigera Woods!!! lol

Stay positive...you can do this, and I believe your W is thinking and muddling things in her head...give her time and space....avoid anger at all costs...anger will only exacerbate your problems. Develop a ducks back!!!

Great job on GAL and going dark!!! You are doing a great job....continue to stand tall for your M...

you are in my thoughts and prayers
holla if u need anything...I'm around, between school and work!

(((daday))))
christarn

ps...hope all of this made sense and sorry if i rambled!!!! lol