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[TxMomw/2girls]

so much to catch up on....

I'm out of town tomorrow thru Sunday so I will be off and try to catch up Monday...

I did the 180, playing it nice and meeting needs etc....and it was working for the first few weeks he was out of the house.. then after this past weekend after we went to the fair he pull the crap he pulled.. I'll copy my thread and post it here... so this week I'm a little dark... it's been two months exactly today and a month out of the house... so I think for me I tried the nice route too soon... I'm too hurt, negative etc... I'm backing up right now this week and next week and then we'll see how I feel then.. I keep hanging on to the words he gave me Sunday... I need to let it go but gosh...

I'm leaving our letters and cards sitting in the office this weekend maybe he'll see them and read them... not obvious place but where he'd see them if he gets on the computer.

T2L you are doing great... meeting those needs ... keep it up..

Ok here is my post from my thread:

H came over Sat. to watch girls and then we went to state fair... had a good time ... right when we got home I left to go see movie and then to friends house.. I get home about 12:30am he comes down stairs and says..

H " I think I might leave"
Me - " thought you had committed to staying until Sunday morning help with girls" I said I could use the break as I am the one doing it all so couple of nights/mornings would help
H - said fine but he doesn't feel comfortable here...
Me- I said if I had known that I could have made arrangments to stay out
I then asked is someone making you feel uncomfortable...
H -said no
he decided to stay...

In the morning I slept in ... when I woke I said I was going to church... he asked if I was taking the girls and I said I guess so since you needed to leave... He said he was thinking of going to church too - not with us.. (never is he the one to suggest church)

After I'm ready and he is dressed I started figuring out he must be going with OW..(he was in bathroom texting her) I asked him are you going by yourself? He said he didn't know.. that set me off as he couldn't answer the question.. He was going to go to the church that he and I went too the whole time we dated and we got married in... couldn't believe it. He said she is Catholic too...

I told him to get out and I broke down crying... How can God ( or evil) bring these two together and they think they can go to church hand in hand ...

I text him this
ME : You leave your kids and family to go to church and you meet the women you are having an affair with to go to church with her? You can separate your two lives that easily?

H reply: It is not that, it's more that I don't want to or feel like being around you that much... our marriage life is over being a Dad will always be.

Me: I'm sorry you feel this way..

I know the whole believe half of what you hear crap... but he seems so done.. can't understand how overnight he seems to even lost the slightest feeling of friendship or caring ... just poof it's gone... I can think of endless loving things he has done for me the past 4-6 months and 3 months now into an affair it is just wiped clean...

T2L - thoughts???


Hope - you did so good... I would have lost it too ... right on!!! you and I are too fresh... H just moved out and it is hard... I would create an email account anonymously and send it to someone in the office acting like you are another employee and start the rumor...