My situation #5

[steady]

marriedCrazy thanks for popping in again. I'm still catching up on your sitch and appreciate all the feedback I get here.

And you're right, it is a common theme - the fear of re-entering the relationship. I've commented on one of my previous posts about it. I can see how consistency in the changes and doing this over time is the only thing that quells this fear.

It wasn't that long ago where my W was actively trying to avoid me. The changes over time have changed that to the point where she actually enjoys my company. The next phase is where she actively seeks out my company on a regular basis.

The other thing that helps me is SmartCookies post (it was stickied but not sure if it still is) about the internal workings of a WAW or AWAW. She wrote about the in and out that occurs and the testing of how safe the R is. She put it as taking their hearts out of the little box they stuck it in, then putting it back in there - over and over.

My W connects with me more than she has over the past few months and I can see the frequency increasing as well as the length of time she keeps the connection open.

Time.