How about if I blow up your house, and then of the 2 toothpicks that remain, I give one to you, and one to your husband?
What a way to finish it though.
S%^& happens and yes everyone loses ESPECIALLY the kids but it still can be fair and equitable between you two and that minimises loses for the kids. They get equal share of parents at least that way.
You guys seem to use lawyers very quickly and they are so costly. I had initial consultation with lawyer when I first separated. As did H. All new territory for us. We have 10 residential properties , 2 commercial buildings and 3 businesses between us.
Both lawyers contacted each other, both recommended that we have all assets valued, agree on the split. Try to work together and sell minimum assets in this economic climate. Come back if problems doing that, otherwise we will see you in the final sign off . Here are 6 MC sessions with whomever. Cost $100 for me, couple of hundred for H. Of course if we couldn't agree it would get costly but most people can work out the difference between the financial and emotional drain using lawyers to force an agreement surely. You just have to be fair.
In your case its a little difficult to do that with someone you cant communicate with I suppose.
They say it takes a man only 2 years to return to the same financial position he was in pre divorce and a woman at least 10 years. Hopefully soon you will be in a position to ease the kids loses. You could support extra cirriculun activites etc, or at least some of the things they have to give up for a while over and above child support.
