WAW Won't Communicate At All

[cotoffgard]

You're making total sense. It's all about balance. Subdued positivity is what I'd try to convey if I were in your sitch. Don't come off like a used car salesman, but don't look like and old dog on his last legs either. Another way to approach this is to ask yourself what would make your W want to come to you and talk? You know her best, so do what you think will attract rather than detract.

I wish I could paint a rosier picture about our sitch, but in the end I'm a pragmatist. I've been where you are (emotionally that is), and let me tell you that there are darker days to come. Just when you think you've hit rock bottom, you'll find a shovel you could use to dig yourself deeper into the pits. One day you'll ask yourself "What the f*** am I doing? Am I really that pathetic of a guy?". It'll probably be at tha point you'll take action.

For me, I needed to do something physical in order to be emotionally distracted. I remember one night sitting in my dark cave, shortly after s**t went down, just flipping through channels when something sorta "snapped". I got up, put on my sneakers, and just took a walk. With no where specific in mind, I walked about a mile west, turned around then walked back. When I got back to the apt., I felt a little relieved, enough so that I got a tiny bit of an appetite back where I could start nourishing myself again. Two months later, with the help of countless people who've contributed to my threads (my "Angels"), I'm going out with groups of people (IRL and not via computer mind you!), making new friends, really cute SoCal women calling/texting (won't go any further than that but the ego boost is awesome!), just started motorcycling, still go out for nightly strolls when I can, therapy session every week...

I'm not trying to brag, but I am letting you know there can be huge personal progress in a very short amount of time only if you put your sneakers on and take that first step. I know it hurts, and I really hate to see you, or anyone else with genuine change in their heart, go through something like this, but just know that you're going to emerge from the fire and brimstone a much MUCH better man! Let's hope that your W will see this before she's too late