Signs to say WAW woke up?

[dday101798]

Ok, so we met and immediately she agreed to looking into a family counseling situation to help get the kids in line as I repeatedly said, this is the rest of their lives. All the while she had a somber look which told me there was more than just the kids she wanted to talk about

After some of her usual bobbling back and forth between ideas of how she will continue to live away from me, but yet still not divorce me I asked again what is it exactly she wants.

Long story short, she says she doesn't know on anything and gets upset, begins to cry and the R/M talk goes well and it appears she having serious second thoughts. She even went so far as to say she told a mutual friend last Friday morning she wanted to do something with me for our 10th anniversary that night. Also, this friend is having a birthday party for her son on Sunday and asked to go with me. When leaving, I touched her arm and she immediately spun around and we held each other for a good 5 minutes for the first time since May.

Well, later that night, I had to go get coffee and my path took me by 'her' house, of course, OM's car parked out front. Shrugged off and carried on.

Yesterday, complete change and truth comes out. I spoke with the mutual friend and she says W never made any mention of wanting to do anything for our anniversary. Shortly after I spoke to wife and asked that if she is going to spend the afternoon with me, please do not go "home" to him afterward. This begins the cold treatment of "you know I'm with him", forget all the "I don't know" talk the night before and can't give me an answer to why she held me. And that she has to go to the party because she was to help decorate.

I finished with saying then there is no reason why we should be going anywhere together than as that is killing the last bits of compassion I have for her. Our friend determined that only I am going to the party and that W was never included on any of the plans of decoration of anything and had no idea W was going at all since she was NEVER invited.

So, I told her I'm done talking for now, I'm going dark on her again. Sick of all the lies and toying with my head. Can one of the WAWs here tell me why you do this? I told her point blank the other night when we met that I still DO NOT want a divorce, and if she's having second thoughts, you know where my door is and you know my number, but I can't' do this much longer.