There is a fine line between loving your husband and not liking the person he has become, isn't there?
That's so true! I think I still have a tiny bit of love still for H(I'm crazy I know) but no liking for him and not much respect for how he's been a husband and dad the past few years.
Heater guy came out today and said our heater is toast. The heater exchange I think he said was cracked in 2 or 3 places and he said if we'd run it we would have died of carbon monoxide poisoning! Luckily it was coming out cold so we didn't!!! It's 20 years old so guess we need a new one it sounds like. I'll let the Ls fight over that!!!
I saw my C today and she told me don't need to justify to H like I always do about the need for heat or whatever bs she says he throws at me, and agreed with me I shouldn't have tried to make nice with H about his not calling the kids again this week after he promised them. I'm determined not to do that again. Will work on being more assertive, although she says I've had growth in that, I definitely want to grow some more in that.
Turns out the mediator they picked out is her SIL!!! She said she won't talk to her SIL about us, although she's wanting to apparently. She said she's willing to testify in court that it's apparent that the kids and I have a close, tight bond or something like that (she's done some group family therapy with us a few times). Wants to talk more to me about that next week. Agreed with me that she thinks S14 might have problems being self-supportive and self-sufficient at 18. My L had wanted me to discuss that with her. She seems to be in agreement with me about that, so that's good. Hope everyone's having a good day. I plan to do a little homeschooling/chores and then do something fun!!! Karen
