Sara, I too have thought a lot about forgiveness. I think one of my major downfalls was talking about the "OW" to my H when I get angry. To him I'm saying I'll never forgive you and I'll always throw her up in your face. I know he is no longer seeing her outside of work because we are together all the time. I know that the temptation is still there at work, but it is helpful that DD20 works there also.
Right now I'm working on "us". We are communicating and spending time together. He even asks me about my day now! I like the fact that he is making weekend plans for us. I've got to show him that I'm the more "desirable" person without being weak. I'm showing him that I want to be with him, but I can also make it without him.
Life's challenges are not supposed to paralyze you, they're supposed to help you discover who you are. -- Bernice Johnson Reagon
