Convinced my M is over; trying to move forward.

[Little Engine]

My wife can't hold down a job either.

My W makes it about three or four years and then implodes!

And that is exactly how I would describe my W. Very interesting term "woman-child"!?

It came from a song. I can't remember where I heard it, I thought America or CS&N/CSNY, but thinking maybe it was Baby, Don't Get Hooked On Me, by Mac Davis. "Girl, you're a hot-blooded woman child..." It struck a chord at the time and has been with me ever since.

how she acted like such a complete child about emotions and such. (I feel weird talking about this...but anyway.) And it seemed like his anger over infidelity was to be put away because of all her "issues." Nothing was ever quite her responsibility.

Like it was all OM's fault that she strayed? I guess I have travelled that same road if that is what you mean breakaway. My W blamed me for everything and never took responsibility for her actions. I think James and Tom have both echoed those feelings. Our W's can't be the ones who caused the problem.

What does your W say when you share that your kids don't want to be around OM? or that you don't like it?

W won't listen to me or believe that this is wrong for the children. It is her life and when they are with her they are her kids! Never does she consider what the kids are comfortable with. She tried to counter my argument about taking them to see him by asking S "I asked you guys if it was OK?" I countered with "If you have to ask if it is OK, then it is not OK!" OM has children that are around our kids' ages, so W uses going to play with OM's kids as a way to forward her relationship with OM. W met OM on a Friday and I think the following Monday she took our kids to an aquatic center where she met up with him and his kids! KOOKY!

Yes it is, i know i catch myself alot overlooking things that people that dont understand and think im stupid.

I have done this as well, and still do when I think maybe there is a shot a saving our M. I can overlook so many of the crazy things W has done and said to me. Sadly, I cannot think how our M would be if we were to reconcile now. I see no chance of that happening. I don't think I even want a friendship with her anymore. We will deal with raising our kids and outside of that, I could probably handle never seeing her again. I can't explain how my feelings have changed so quickly, but it has to do with accepting that she will never change. Why would I want to be around someone who thinks infidelity is the solution to a problem? Why would I want someone who would accept that hurting her children is OK if it gets her what she wants? I really feel like I have no choice but to get out to save myself!