I don't see fairness as a possible outcome because both of us are taking a 50% cut in lifestyle. Because the kids have to move again. Because the kids are yanked between 2 parents. Because she and I committed to buying a house together, then she kicked me out, and now we are forced to sell when the market has gone down, and we will lose more than a year of my salary on the exchange. Because we spent tens of thousands of dollars on lawyers. everybody loses, except the attorneys.
How about if I blow up your house, and then of the 2 toothpicks that remain, I give one to you, and one to your husband? That would be "fair" but it woouldn't really be fair at all. That's what I feel like is happening, just on the material stuff.
