Living with disdain (OK, I avoided the word hate)

[FaithfulH]

I would just say that FIB has done NOTHING that was unforgiving or unloving in regards to his wife.

I rarely post on FIB's thread (although we have regular contact off the board) because I shudder at the inevitable response of the "move on" crowd that jumps in to rationalize Divorce. That is not what this site is about...there are other places for that. Your opening premise is flawed...not even FIB would make this statement.

Perhaps part of the problem is that we all project our own sitches onto others. Maybe the "standers" are recruiting others to stand like them? What of those that have endured divorce. Nobody is recommending "clinging" to our spouses. What good comes from dire predictions of FIB's W's motives and thought processes? Have you met her? I see LOTS of encouraging signs in her actions. Is she perfect? Far from it...as are we all.

Sorry...just trying to be one of the few voices trying to encourage FIB (and others) that there are some out here who believe contrary to the "move on" mentality.