the PC in the Ws "cave" mysteriously stopped working one day....the only PC now is the one in MY room. My W whines about it...in all the years we have had multiple PCs....I fixed them on one or two days. My answer? No $ rite now gotta pay for L!!
H 34 W 31 M 11yrs D 11 D 9
6-1-08 I wanted to fix marriage 6-11-08 I found out about OM
Lis, I not only made the coffee and made us both a cup, but don't forget....
I was also making lunches for us both. At least on days when she wasn't having lunch with OM.
What a stoop!
Nah, not a stoop. Just you... and me... and so many others who for some unknown illogical reason still give a $hit.
Told my C that yesterday (about the illogical feelings and how I feel sad with that at times - don't like W right now but still love her). That is the question for my next C session - why do I still care? Maybe I will stop with the coffee after that...
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
I still toss and turn about allowing access to the dating websites. I gave her a boundary a few weeks back; and that was no surfing dating website while were all in the house together. So far she has been holding up to that boundary. But I know she surfs them when she's alone.
Ignorantly, she uses the same pw we use for most anything; so I've been able to she what she's doing. My L advised me not to try and stop her. Could be beneficial in my D when we get to that.
I have no problems with acts of service, so long as they don't involve direct enabling of her affair. Helping her hook up the internet so she can IM with him, and the hockey package so she can SEE him, is not helping her OR you.
Personally, not only would I have NOT helped her, I would have put a BLOCK on the damned thing.
the PC in the Ws "cave" mysteriously stopped working one day....the only PC now is the one in MY room. My W whines about it...in all the years we have had multiple PCs....I fixed them on one or two days. My answer? No $ rite now gotta pay for L!!
I LIKE THAT ONE!
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
I have no problems with acts of service, so long as they don't involve direct enabling of her affair. Helping her hook up the internet so she can IM with him, and the hockey package so she can SEE him, is not helping her OR you.
Personally, not only would I have NOT helped her, I would have put a BLOCK on the damned thing.
Puppy
Puppy, I know.
D16 and S13 were sitting there when I was talking to her. Had to try and maintain my composure. Trying to show the K's that at least one of their parents is the parent they need and want to see.
Dust off, pick up and move forward... right?
LIS
M45 WW 43 D17/S14/D11
ILYB Jan 08 PA Conf Feb 08 OMW / OM contacted S Jan / 09
No one ever has, or ever will, escape the consequences of their actions.
will have to look at that.