H just turned 36 last month. I need to update my signature :).
I think this has been going on for 1-2 years actually, in terms of his feeling unhappy. At least this is what he's said.
I really, truly don't think there is an OW in any way in my sitch. I think this is truly a crisis within himself, and maybe he likes attention and feeling single, but I think the guilt comes from the way he knows this is making me feel. If there were to be an OW, I'd deal with it. I don't know whether it would be a deal breaker or not, would probably depend on the specifics of the situation. He has been going to therapy, and reading loads of self-help books, so I do believe he is doing his best to get better as quickly as possible, but I know these things take time.
Everyone will be pleased to know that H and I have not been sending IMs today. I did send him an email link about the area we are visiting this weekend, and I see he is online, but I haven't reached out and neither has he.
Of course it's only 1 PM, so things could change, but am guessing he wants a day of NC. He gets like this...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!