It would be great to do a meet and greet. My daughter is 14, a freshman in high school.
Perhaps strength comes from freedom or the need to be free from what hurts you or those you love. I look forward to the day I can do the same with spouse.
Sometimes I wonder which nit picked the path for where my life is. Was it me being 'stupid' honest? Was it one too many bills not paid? Was it being afraid?.. Or was it..
the true culprit...
Mismatched socks.
We all know the story of doing laundry. All the dirty clothes, pairs of socks included make it into the hamper, into the washing machine, even into the dryer. The great mystery.. is what happens to the socks when it's time to fold them?
If you're like me you have a basket full of missing socks, waiting for their mate to be found. As the pile gets larger, the motivation to sort through them and couple the socks wanes.
Relationships are like that. Stuff can get dirty and nasty, but it comes out in the wash. But it's those darn socks that get lost and not dealt with that lead to marital discord. All those socks of various sizes, colors and styles heaping up, never being dealt with, always viewed with annoyance wears you down over time. Something is always missing, lost. It's easier to pass it over, let it accumulate instead of doing the hard work of either making sure the socks go into the laundry pinned together or they're instantly sorted and restored to their coupledom.
From now on, keeping an eye on my sock situation will be barometer on my relationship stability. Well, wait.. let me sort through that one basket o' socks.. THEN I'll start!
M 19 years, MC for 8 months, DB'd for 8 months 4 kids; 18, 15, 14, & 10 I was never meant to be a doormat. It took me years of therapy to become assertive enough to stop his abuse.
I threw away those socks and now I am requested to look through the garbage to find them cause my stbxH finally went through his and says he might have some worth wearing that pair with my single ones... (he says). How do I get motivated to look through the garbage? K
Tell him you'll give him money to buy new socks if it's that important. Or you can hand him the garbage and tell him he can find the ones he'd really like.
Hmmm... having you dig through garbage to find something that covers his soul (sole)... geez.. pretty interesting request and it keeps him top of mind in your thoughts.
Gypsy, I love your imagery. Your words are like warm chocalate melting on my tongue: oh so smooth and delicious. I always look forward to reading your perspective. It is enlightening. Thank you for the sock reference, I love it.
Broken Hearted ------------------ Me - 36 H - 37 S - 8 Married - 1992 ILYNILWY - August 2007 Moved Out - March 2008 OW Revieled - May 28, 2008 Filed for D - July 2, 2008
Last night I talked to a friend who said, "Pretend I'm your spouse calling you."
I thought.. yeah yeah yeah.. like that's going to effect me.
*gulp*
Apparently quite a bit spewed, my voice got progressively louder (up to shrieking and beyond), my language became fouler, my anger, sense of injustice and betrayal spouted and it kept flowing like a breached waste containment facility.
The emotion and frustration took over as my voice got high and squeaky, tears were flowing, my body was tensed and there was so... much... anger.
