Back to life, back to reality?

[AliSuddenly]

Hey ITH,
It struck me that you are early on in this process, if it startd in April. My ex dropped the first bomb end August and again early September... but it took him till March to admit that he had seen his GP and had depression (whereas he had denied it categorically July - Christmas). Back in August - Christmas, he said the same things, the walls are closing in, I feel like my heads exploding, I just want to be on my own, I need space and time, I dont think we have a future together...

Things really changed around for us, after NC January, he gradually became more and more in touch until we were spending whole weekends together by June/July. Of course, as soon as ow was available (I assume), he was off, so I lost him.

I am still suspicious that there is an ow or that he has had had feelins/fancies someone else as thats what causes their terrible conflict and guilt. Although the ow can still just be a symptom of the underlying pychological changes that are going on in them.

Just wanted to say, its early days and he needs to go through this crisis point before things may level out. Especially if he is having his Pluto square Pluto now (being 35) in which case, this could take a couple of years start to finish (and it must have started before he said anything to yuo, right).

Ali x