Hey, I LOVE volleyball also! Will sign up in Jan. Too bad you're not in the STL burbs! H complained I didnt like to do anything and needed to get out more. I am shy in nature but friendly and bubbly around people I know.
I did too much also. Too co-dependent , doing everything for everybody (namely the kids). H and I were almost always at the bottom of list. I was exhausted, stressed, couldn't relax, and as a result, diagnosed with depression. I have some not so good days , but no longer will I let depression cast a shadow over me.
Im also very passive in nature. I avoided conflict whenever possible. For example, if H made rude sarcastic remarks about "not getting any" I ignored it rather than addressing it, b/c I thought if I did initiate, then he'd think I was doing it only b/c he complained. It always felt like a no win. Ironicly sex life soared after starting on Wellbutrin. Then the bomb. I guess it was too late. We didnt communicate our needs effectively. I was sorely mistaken to think a few times a month was plenty. My T said this - women need emotional intimacy for ML and men need to ML for emotionaly intimacy.
What hurts most is how hard I try to see it from H perspective, but he doesnt try to see mine. Guess he just can't see anything through that "fog".
me -36 H - 38 M 16yr T 21yr D11 S11(twins) S14 IDLYA 6/18 H confessed EA and asked for D &/4 H consulted atty 5-6wk ago still havent been "served"
