Even though you are on the same IM network- I do think you should just tell him that you need a break. He is babbling via the computer!
The way your H is up and down and back and forth really makes me think that he is having mental issues- whether it be depression or bipolar disorder, or someother spectrum. Really bright, driven people seem to be overrepresented- which I would guess your H might be?
When you said... "He said he felt like the walls were closing in on him, and he wanted to cry...SO weird as I have given him SO much space!"
I don't think the walls closing in have anything to do with how much space you are giving him... they are the walls of his mind.
These were problems I had in my M too- H has bipolar/manic/depression issues. When things are bad- ain't nothing gonna make it right- and he felt I was making it wrong. When things were good we got a reprieve... But he wasn't (isn't) dealing with the underlying issues of his mental health- but he seems to be in a good phase- hence our R is getting better.
I guess what I am trying to say is that with all the wacky things you are telling us about your H- it seems he is a bit unstable mentally. And this is making you unstable because you have to dodge every ball he throws. A lot of them are hitting you directly. A few more just might take you out.
Just remember to limit your time- focus on the positives- let them happen and don't push them. I think when your S is suffering like this they can be pushed away. It is better that you back off.
Oh- and I read happy_again's threads... very insightful...should be required reading on this site...
stay strong!
Me-36 H-30 T-7yr, M-3yr DivorceBusting Saved my marriage! sep 6-08 to 12-08. Together again, things are good!
