I have checked the county website that I have access to to check if papers have been filed for divorce. None have been. It would show. It would show if ANY legal paperwork has been filed. I found the papers I filed when I divorced the first time. Only way to really find out is to either ask my wife, which I don't think would yield me the truth anyway, or ask HIS wife, but I have not had any contact with her....YET.
Unless I speak to her, won't know about any other indiscretions on his part. I know she is about 17 years older. I saw that and thought to myself "WOW".
I have thought about the wife refusing some things from him. I know she has an ATM card of his. She's had it since early this year, so I know she can access funds when she really needs it. She is trying to be independent, but there is no way in HELL she is making it on her own. I'm barely making it myself. Having to rob Peter to pay Paul. She nets about $875 every two weeks. Her rent is $980 alone! Electricity, cell phone, groceries like crazy, gas, Time Warner bundle package for home phone, internet and cable, a loan she got through her work that she HAS to pay, MAYBE a credit card or two out of the ten that she owes a balance on. I know she took out a couple of small finance company loans, too. I don't think she is paying on them.
She HAS to be getting some help from somewhere. And now we have to be sharing a $300 monthly daycare bill. Not sure how she paid the daycare the first week payment and $75 registration fee on Tuesday. She could have written a check, as she should have gotten paid today. She just thinks that I believe when she tells me that she is making it. Struggling and no money left over, but making it. Like no help. Makes me want to smack her. She thinks I'm so stupid. She KNOWS I'm not.
So in your opinion, I should keep up the family time stuff? Everyone seems to be for the backing off from her now.
About his having kids. Just not sure. I heard one VM from him to her once and in it he had told her that "...soon it will be just you and me and the kids". The wife's tubes ARE tied.
Me 47, WW 38 SS18, D15, D10
Good Bye Girl. No longer SAYING she's moving out. GBG moved out 8-1-08
"I have now decided to enjoy life instead of figure it out."
