I do not know your sitch but I read your thread title and just wanted to pop in and say that I am sorry for the pain you are feeling. It must be a crazy rollarcoaster. Just remember that it does not always mean the end of the road. I think there are a lot of people who can still save their marriage even if papers are filed. What are the laws in your state? Is there a "cooling off" period like I have read about on other threads?
Always remember that you are the only one who can decide when it is really over. It may seem/feel hopeless now but I really believe that you can keep DBing and pull things back if you want to.
