My H's first affair took me 5 years to work through
If I assume he had subsequent affairs - do you think that if you had resolved your issues quicker , then you may of started building a stronger R quicker ? Less pain and damages inflicted. We see our spouses pain in there eyes every day.
Apologies if my assumption is wrong.
As the spouse who had A, I can say that, it was not the length of time that brought me to my senses ( and we were/are years into this ), it was H deciding to GAL without me. I wonder if he had made a firm stand with me from the beginning, that we would not of then inflicted upon ourselves the built up resentment, hurtful words and actions which have all taken chinks out of our M ! Making each passing day more differcult to imagine how we can come back from this nightmare !
