There was a one-night stand in 2000 on a business trip to Tokyo
There was a 6 week PA in 2002 right after our first child was born
There was (possibly is but I doubt it)a 15 month EA/PA from Spring 2007-July 2008. H has since shown proof that this is over and leaves his phone out all the time, shares details, travel itineraries, etc
Guilt is a big issue b/c he has said many times he doesn't know how I could ever trust him/forgive him for what he has done. This is in large part b/c he does not forgive me, he harbors resentments toward me for things that he knows are not my fault. So if he can't forgive me for things that were not my fault, he doesn't believe I could truly forgive him for the things that are his fault. Hope that makes sense...
