I got home tonight and ther ewas a leeter in my mailbox from the trial courts. Our hearing is on 10/29. Our pre-trial is on 4/7/09. My "dalliances" were EA's never PA's so I am happy that they never got to that point. What does DAM mean? I'm not aware of any controlling behavior. Definitely a lack of communication though. I need to keep reminding myself that I can't change the past. Any advice on how to cope with all of the good thoughts (memories) that keep flooding my mind? I've been doing nothing but sobbing for the last 4 days. I saw my neighbor tonight and she told me that when she saw my W a couple of weeks ago, she had told her that she loves me so much????