1) Truly forgive and forget EVERYTHING. Talk about it, calmly without guilt, and try to understand H for his mistakes. Don't just not talk about things, really repair the R, without blame.
2) Remembering that I made mistakes, but forgiving myself. Harder than I thought.
3) Giving H the space and totally letting go, while holding onto my gut feelings and faith. I realize that letting go, with no ego or selfish need, is probably the deepest way to show love.
4) Going back to the way I was before. Unshackling fear, insecurity, resentment, anger, control.
5) Loving a person in the best ways they need and only in the ways they want from you at that time. Accepting this.
6) Being true to yourself. Clarifying your own mind in what you want, how you want it, what you are prepared to do and face.
7) Focusing on me. Realizing that H is a person I WANT, not NEED.
