Or.... how about being lighthearted - I've gotten some mileage with "demands" - like smiling and saying "hey buster - no dinner until you give me a big smooch".

Of course, when they are REALLY depressed, this doesn't work, but when they just aren't feeling it, sometimes it motivates them to go through the motions - and often, that's how they will start to get the feelings back.

Ellie