note: this is not my thread though I started it...it is meant for all...
the more people that know your sit the harder it may be to piece
we all know of "well meaning friends and family" that thwart our dbing efforts well they don't suddenly change their tune when the light dawns on the wayward spouse...
obviously support is needed in dealing with the threat of divorce but not everyone needs to know the details or even what's going on. Support doesn't always have to mean the person knows why it is they are going to the gym with you etc. choose your confidants (outside of the bb) wisely and make them few.
the less people you tell about your sit, the less people you have to explain things to if a reconcilliation is to occur.
Not that it sould matter what other people think but let's face it we are human and how others view us does effect us...no need to put yourself in a position where you feel others are looking at you as weak or foolish for accepting back (or wanting back) a spouse who has hurt you.
