I agree. The issue of my projects are mine. i know how she thinks, probably better than she does. I am not going to fix her, that i know. I am lettingher hang with the rope i dropped. that is why my attitude towrads her has changed to a very stern and hard line. I believe what you had told me about being there for her, also my acting happy whne she was around, i think, sent the wrong message as you had also indicated. this hard line is about me and where I am. the more she sees that, the less of a grip she has. i agree totally with what you are saying. I have read about MLC and understand it is her ride and I need to avoid getting on. that is why this new outlook I think has generated some response. I am going to keep this way up bacuase it feels right and I feel stronger and better about myself. The pressure I put on myself now is o get things done so I can rest. again, my whole miles to go before I sleep. In order for me to get to the final hurdle, I need these projects off my back. I love doing them, don't get me wrong. It's been a while since I really got into my house. I do also realize, as I mentioned, that this thing is not about me, my marriage or realtionship, it is about her. that has really helped me. Man I like hearing back from you....Really feel like my head is getting together everytime we talk.
