I am going through a tough piecing patch again after a good month.
I hear you about the stress the kiddies can place on you. One good thing about our separation was the extra responsibility H took on for the kids and that has more or less remained. He now comes home early 2/3 nights a week and takes over for me and I am out of that door. We also get a babysitter in once a week and go dancing
I keep thinking why didn't we do that before? It helps sooo much.
Things that don't work Feeling resentful that it is me doing all the work on R Not asking for what I need and then finally asking in a negative tone because it has been festering with me for so long Feeling negative about M generally, feeling like he was never the man I should have married blah blah blah
Things that make it better Texting little love notes - even just one word like Gorgeous X is enough! Thanking and appreciating Spending time together Little kindnesses Physical touch (near the top LL for both of us)
Things that still need work Try to stop feeling weak or like an idiot for trying to piece M back together even after A and when feeling like H was never right man
Try to think of ways to talk constructively about our R without getting into same old behaviour patterns and not solving anything
Trying harder to focus on the positive aspects of our M instead of the negative
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
