It is so easy for others..especially single people to judge why someone stays and forgives an a....an a of any kind..my h had some kind of ea with this ff...and LL..you are so right don't tell family and friends..my family knows bits and pieces and of course assume there was hot and heavy pa going on...and anyhting I have said now, they don't even hear..but the anger they feel for my h is there and I can sense it..and they don't and never will know the whole truth...I learned early on not to say anything more about our r, our sep, our lives to ANYONE.
Each one of us has to find the peace, forgiveness, or whatever it takes to move on...if your spouses have come back,and they genuinly have shown the desire to piece the m back, I would be jumping for joy, but that is not how everyone feels, and since my h does not show any interest in piecing right now, I will not judge that you who have them back are so lucky..and that you should not complain...just get on with life, cause I am smart enough to know that a m just can't pick up and go on as if nothing happened.I hear about the feelings of anger and resentment start to creep in, and learning how to deal with all that is probably harder then the work you had to do to stay sane through the first phase of this journey.
